About adoption:
On top of being abused with no parent I could trust, being adopted with no history from which to derive identity, and no one to relate to either of these conditions - add another layer of being an alien in another country, and others telling me repeatedly I did not fit in. I can not for the life of me understand why anyone would want to subject a child to that kind of isolation, unless their need to be charitable outweighed all sense of reason.
I feel the great sums of money spent on one international adoption could support an entire family in distress, prop up social services to birthparents in crisis, or feed the starving. There is a market, there is a product, and there are third world countries to exploit. There is no need to rip a child from its heritage, culture, and identity to save it from a life of misery! There IS a need to eliminate the forces tearing families apart.
International adoption is allowing countries to neglect their responsibilities towards its own citizens. This is what adoption constitutes - a cop out - to spend less on its people or to gain money from its babies. This is what prospective adoptive parents contribute to by supporting an industry that ignores everyone's voices except those with the most money, under the guise of charity.
Stop creating a market for the sale of babies. Boycott international adoption. It's the ethical thing to do.
