Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 04/03/2010 - 13:21.
Dearest Luda,
You precious child. It infuriates me to hear how a grown man could hurt you like this! Nothing can take the truth away, however, you have more control over your life (now as a young adult) than you know. I still need to apply this to myself as I have control issues myself. Not suprising when I had no say to anything when I was placed in an orphanage in Bangladesh (and only recently am finding out that I may have been stolen and sold for adoption.....but thats another story.), then adopted into a family I never chose and then hit by my adoptive father into submission for any display of self-expression. Your adoptive fathers actions towards you are still contolling you even though he may no longer be in your life. What he did to you are HIS issues, not yours. Clearly this pedophile needs to be stopped for the saftey of other children. If you need some advice on how to deal with that pedophile check out 'adoption angels network' . Just google it. The founder (a woman) I am sure will give you some great advice. She is a friend of mine.
You are not alone. Your inner child needs to be heard and in a safe and secure environment. Have you thought of seeing a therapist that specialises in adoption? I saw one years ago, by chance really, when I started my Transactional Analysis psychotherapy training and being in therapy myself was mandatory. I still remember my first visit to her, my therapist and she asked whether I had any adoption issues and how quick I was to respond with a most definite 'No!'.....she never mentioned adoption again after that, but skillfully got me to bring it up myself. She later disclosed to me that she specialised in adoption.
Your pain, hurt and anger is justified, but, let no one and nothing define you, but you. You are special and you deserve to be recognised.
From Babytears with all my love
Dearest Luda,
You precious child. It infuriates me to hear how a grown man could hurt you like this! Nothing can take the truth away, however, you have more control over your life (now as a young adult) than you know. I still need to apply this to myself as I have control issues myself. Not suprising when I had no say to anything when I was placed in an orphanage in Bangladesh (and only recently am finding out that I may have been stolen and sold for adoption.....but thats another story.), then adopted into a family I never chose and then hit by my adoptive father into submission for any display of self-expression. Your adoptive fathers actions towards you are still contolling you even though he may no longer be in your life. What he did to you are HIS issues, not yours. Clearly this pedophile needs to be stopped for the saftey of other children. If you need some advice on how to deal with that pedophile check out 'adoption angels network' . Just google it. The founder (a woman) I am sure will give you some great advice. She is a friend of mine.
You are not alone. Your inner child needs to be heard and in a safe and secure environment. Have you thought of seeing a therapist that specialises in adoption? I saw one years ago, by chance really, when I started my Transactional Analysis psychotherapy training and being in therapy myself was mandatory. I still remember my first visit to her, my therapist and she asked whether I had any adoption issues and how quick I was to respond with a most definite 'No!'.....she never mentioned adoption again after that, but skillfully got me to bring it up myself. She later disclosed to me that she specialised in adoption.
Your pain, hurt and anger is justified, but, let no one and nothing define you, but you. You are special and you deserve to be recognised.
Extending all my love and best wishes your way.