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Abuse case file

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Submitted by babytears on Sat, 10/10/2009 - 14:04
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I was born in Bangladesh
I was adopted in 1978
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I was raised in the orphange in Dhaka Bangladesh and with my adoptive parents in London UK, New York USA, Houston Texas USA and Vienna Austria
My abuser was my adoptive father & mother and adoptive dad's younger brother & his fourth/fifth wife

Since I can remember, with my adoptive parents from the time of my adoption in March 1978, I was physically, verbally and emotionally abused. All I wanted was to love and be loved, but my adoptive parents were more concerned about their image and the embarrassment that I was bringing to them than my emotional well being. If I was myself, my adoptive dad would hit and threaten me to submission. He was a control maniac. Only he was allowed to express himself, be the smart, humorous and charming one. My adoptive mom adored her husband and saw me as a fake. They would act like victims and often tell me and my biological sister who was adopted with me that we were killing them. That terrified me and again he exerted his control over me. I am still terrified of my adoptive father now at the mature age of 36! That is why I live so far away from them as possible.

Your Message
About adoption: 

If you are white folks planning to adopt transnationally and transracially then please re-think your reasons for adopting. We are humans. We are children who have a history and who are grieving the loss of our birth family. We are not miniture adults or dolls. We are not here to solve ANY of your problems, which I know you have many! We are NOT charity cases and we do not owe you anything, least of all 'gratitude'! We are not a country that you can conquer indirectly by exerting your control over us through your perverse abuse.

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