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I was thrilled to find this website after doing a google search for "abusive adoptive parents."  I had done this many times before only to get very few hits that never really led to anything.

I have cut all contact with my adoptive family.  It took me several years to do this because I never gave up trying to have a good relationship with them until 2006.  It was foolish, but since they had mellowed a bit with age, I thought I could put the past behind me.  It wasn't to be that way because, although the physical abuse had ended, the verbal abuse had not.  And they were very mean to my children behind my back, threatening them not to tell me what went on during their visits to "Granny's house."  When I finally knew there was a problem, it took my children months before they felt safe enough to tell me how she had treated them. 

I'll have to gather my thoughts to be able to tell my story.  And I'll have to abandon any plans to do anything for the rest of the day since talking about my life with those people either gives me a panic attack or puts me into a withdrawn and nihilistic mood for quite some time after.