Submitted by luda_love01x on Fri, 02/26/2010 - 01:16
My name is Luda and I was born in russian on Sep. 16, 1990. My birth mother gave me up and put me in the orphanage when i was 3 years old. Anyways, I got adopted sep. 12th, 2002. Me and my brothers room was on the third floor, where my adoptive dads exercise room was. (yes, no one would have been able to see or here anything and i think thats why he picked that room for me). Anyways, few days after adopting me, he started to come upstairs and touching me at first. He would touch me between my legs and massage there while i saw his "privet part" get big. He would also touch my brests and my butt and my butthole. He would make out with me and than move my head twords his hardness and make me play with it with my hands and mouth. He would also take me "one on one" trips and do stuff like that to me. He than would always buy me something. (hello, i do not know why no one in my family "adoptive family" thought it was wierd that he would buy me sooo many things and not buy much for anyone else) He did this too me for about 2/3 years. I mean after that i would go out a lot with friends and have lots of sleep overs at their houses and never tried to make time to stay home anymore. Well, after a while I would have friends over at my house and out of know where he would start yalling at me, and would call me names and hit me. (Yes, I have friends who saw him yell at me and hit me). Thats when I began to sneak out and do drugs and drink a lot. I tried to kill myself about 5 times and almost did it once, but my doc said thanks to my bestie i would have died in my sleep. I have been in the (i don't know how to spell it but thats the place where people who try to kill some one or them selvs or are depressed big time) I was there about 3 times. I am almost 20 now, married and have an eight month old son, and this is still ruining my life. I am thinking about taking him to court but i don't know if it is too late or not. I mean I can not handle this anymore, and if i was a little more smarter than i would have opend my mouth. But i was scared, and i was really scared of being put back in a group home and being by my self again. (If this has ever happend to you, or is happening to you now, please speak up. Say something or do something "not illegal though" I mean call the cops or CPS. Do not let anyone ruin your life and take your innocents away.)
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Luda -
You definitely have legal options, go to the police and file a complaint, even if their are no criminal charges, filing a complaint is necessary, your adoptive father is a dangerous man, you can also hire an attorney to file a civil suit.
From Babytears with all my love
Dearest Luda,
You precious child. It infuriates me to hear how a grown man could hurt you like this! Nothing can take the truth away, however, you have more control over your life (now as a young adult) than you know. I still need to apply this to myself as I have control issues myself. Not suprising when I had no say to anything when I was placed in an orphanage in Bangladesh (and only recently am finding out that I may have been stolen and sold for adoption.....but thats another story.), then adopted into a family I never chose and then hit by my adoptive father into submission for any display of self-expression. Your adoptive fathers actions towards you are still contolling you even though he may no longer be in your life. What he did to you are HIS issues, not yours. Clearly this pedophile needs to be stopped for the saftey of other children. If you need some advice on how to deal with that pedophile check out 'adoption angels network' . Just google it. The founder (a woman) I am sure will give you some great advice. She is a friend of mine.
You are not alone. Your inner child needs to be heard and in a safe and secure environment. Have you thought of seeing a therapist that specialises in adoption? I saw one years ago, by chance really, when I started my Transactional Analysis psychotherapy training and being in therapy myself was mandatory. I still remember my first visit to her, my therapist and she asked whether I had any adoption issues and how quick I was to respond with a most definite 'No!'.....she never mentioned adoption again after that, but skillfully got me to bring it up myself. She later disclosed to me that she specialised in adoption.
Your pain, hurt and anger is justified, but, let no one and nothing define you, but you. You are special and you deserve to be recognised.
Extending all my love and best wishes your way.
Luda
Was it a hospital where you went? A secure unit? A women's shelter?
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As I noted above, it’s supremely ironic to witness such unfounded arrogance being used to accuse atheists of arrogance. It does not seem that either of these people knows the least little thing about atheism or atheists, but that doesn’t prevent them form pontificating about atheism and atheists — judging atheists in a manner which, coincidentally, allows them to feel smug and superior. That, by the way, is a nice definition of arrogance.
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