THE SACRED RESPONSIBILITY OF GIVING BIRTH TO A HUMAN BEING~

how many times when i was growing up in this mansion with these terrifying (rich and socially prominant) people who adopted me, i would be told by friends or adult friends of the ones who adopted me, how lucky i was... being physically and mentally abused for 13 1/2 years, yet unable to tell anyone wasn't luck:  torture is torture and the only "luck" i felt i had once i was dis-owned by them when i was 16, was that i'd lived through it.

why no adult ever reported my obvious abuse still haunts me.  i've made up for it though~  i stand for ANY abuse on humanity that i can do something about, and this has nurtured me since the early '60's.  no one, under ANY circumstance has the right to abuse another being. 

this is what i've never been able to get my head around:  how does a mother who gives birth justify taking her child to "the dog pound?"  what's her rationalization for this?  she is too young maybe?  i was 16 when my son was born, i had 3 years of high school, no job yet, the state of wisconsin was prepared to take my child since i was a ward of the state after aparents dis-owned me.  i had no money, no relatives except my son and somehow i managed to get a job, save 35 bucks, and catch a bus to toronto canada because i knew if i got there, my son would be safe.  what makes any birth mother think her child will end up safe?  as far as my own reality of being adopted at 2 1/2 and living through the trauma of being raised and tortured  by maniacs,  this is a myth.

the other thing i don't understand is why the adoptee is made to feel that any sort of contact with their birthmother has to be handled with great care, so not to "disturb" this  birth mother's life...

please~  i personally think any birth mother who places her child for adoption because she is going to be "inconvenienced" by the event, and perhaps she needs to wait until her "real" life begins~ i think what she really needs is to be let go of the burden of re-production...  i think she needs to be

"spayed."     just my opinion, nothing personal...