neglected
(Abuse Case File)
Physical until about age 12-13
Emotional from as far back as I can remember and still continues
Neglect
Abuse Case File
My adoptive father sexually abused me from the age of 4 until 14 years old. He continued to emotionally abuse me until shortly before his death in 1993. My adoptive mother not only failed to protect me after I told her about the abuse, but she also harshly criticized me as well. Her inactions and neglect negatively affected me as much as her actions. I was 26 when she took responsibility for her actions, but I still dont feel that she has fully recognized her role as the abuser or accomplice.
Abuse Case File
Having spent the first seven months of my life in the Infant Home, I would need to be placed with a family where the adults had the ability to patiently nurture me in order to bond. You could not have picked a person more the opposite than my amother. She could be that person in doses, but usually saved those doses for her bio kids. For me she saved her hate and venom, telling me repeatedly from the time I was 4 or 5 that I was stupid, retarded, that I had my brains in my ass, and that she knew I didn't love her. (She repeated the last one following my wedding.) She hated that I was a tomboy and told me to grow up and act like a girl should.
She wouldn't wait until I actually did something wrong to beat on me. If she had a bad day, she would seek me out. Punching, kicking, grabbing me by the neck, ripping out my hair, etc. I didn't even have to say anything to get my face slapped out of the blue. She would just say that I should wipe the look off my face. There were times when my afather would stop speaking to me and looking at me for weeks and then explode and beat me in a fit of rage. It seemed to happen periodically, at least once a year. The last time was when I was 16. He tearfully apologized the next morning, and never beat me again. I am still not sure what those incidents were about.
My amother was convinced I was going to become pregnant before graduating high school like my bmom. She never said this outright, but controlled my every move (I had a 9 pm curfew until I was a senior in high school. Then it was 10 pm.), who my friends could be, and my "sex" talk at 16 was if I got pregnant, I was not allowed to have an abortion, they would not raise the baby and that I would not be allowed to raise it in their house. All the isolation, control, verbal and physical crap drove me to enlist in the Navy when I was 17 just to get away from her. I knew if I stayed I would commit suicide just to escape her insults, her rages, and her control. I had already tried several times by then.
Abuse Case File
I was told every day that I was a mental deficient just like my real mother. That I was nothing and would never be anything. I was told that I was the most ugly child they had ever seen. I was beaten, strangled, whipped, publicly and privately humiliated. I was locked in a room and not allowed to socialize. I ran away at 16 and went to court to declare myself an emancipated youth.
Abuse Case file
Slapping, Punching, Violent Shaking, Hair-pulling, Ear-pulling, Kicking, Throwing, Hitting with various objects (stick, belt, wooden spoon, hot curling iron, fly-swatter) from age 3 to age 19
Threatened with knife, threaten to be beaten until "the blood comes out," among other verbal threats from age 3 to age 17
Humiliation, degradation, physical and verbal abuse in public; referred to as having "emotional problems," told that I was just like my birth mother while speaking ill of her. age 3 to age 34
Sexual abuse by older foster child #1, attempted rape by older foster child #2 (when I was around age 10). Blamed for it when I talked about it at 19.
Controlled social interactions, friends had to be kids from our church or a similar church, not allowed to join activities such as Girls Scounts. Forced to play piano in church; not allowed to play classical music, only religious music. Television was strictly censored to programs adopters liked, as was music.
Judy and Alan Lewis
Sexual, Knife in me, Guns shot at me, Mental, Etc. 16 years of it.
Abuse Case File
From April 1978 until October 1984 I was sexually and physcially abused by my adopted parents. They both had been found mentally unfit to adopt me but through private adoption were able to get me. I was kept in an attic with no light which was freezing cold in the winter and stiffling hot in the summer. I was starved alot of times as well. I was not allowed in the living room or kitchen except to clean. My life was such a nightmare that sleep became my only friend.
Abuse Case File
Constant verbal abuse by both aparents. Physical abuse by afather until 14. Afather would put us in dangerous situations (example: line us up and shoot at us with live ammo, told to hold still). Afather set my play house on fire (with me in it) when I was five (he needed the insurance money). A passerby saw the fire and got me out. Afather was not happy. I cut all ties with aparents when I was 19.
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Abuse Case File
From 1979 to 1983, I was sexually abused by my father. From 1979 to 1989, I was subjected to verbal, emotional and physical abuse by my alcoholic mother. From 1983 to 1989, I was verbally abused by my father.



