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Abuse Case File

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Michelle
04/01/1972
Independence, Louisiana
1985-- after 10 years in foster care with adoptive family
Bogalusa, Louisiana
Delores M., adoptive mother; Brian R., foster brother and fellow foster child

Slapping, Punching, Violent Shaking, Hair-pulling, Ear-pulling, Kicking, Throwing, Hitting with various objects (stick, belt, wooden spoon, hot curling iron, fly-swatter) from age 3 to age 19

Threatened with knife, threaten to be beaten until "the blood comes out," among other verbal threats from age 3 to age 17

Humiliation, degradation, physical and verbal abuse in public; referred to as having "emotional problems," told that I was just like my birth mother while speaking ill of her.  age 3 to age 34

Sexual abuse by older foster child #1, attempted rape by older foster child #2 (when I was around age 10).  Blamed for it when I talked about it at 19.

Controlled social interactions, friends had to be kids from our church or a similar church, not allowed to join activities such as Girls Scounts.  Forced to play piano in church; not allowed to play classical music, only religious music.  Television was strictly censored to programs adopters liked, as was music.

 

 

 

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The stories of abuse while in foster care are increasing.  What people don't usually talk about is the abuse after the child is adopted.  Adoption is viewed as a means of rescuing a child from unfortunate circumstances, and often this is true.  There are many children whose lives were made better by their new parents' love and affection.  Sadly, there are many of us whose stories haven't been heard because of the myth that adoption always leads to a better life.


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